By Doug Lockwood
After years of listening to pundits and commentators talk about the coming demographic transformations in our country, more and more of us are beginning to experience firsthand what this means through our aging parents.
There is no doubt that—for those of us fortunate enough to still have living parents—being able to have your mother and father in your life for many years is a blessing. But with parents living longer thanks to modern medicine and enhanced quality of life, someday we will be called upon to help make decisions for our parents, just like they did for us during our early years.
To say the least, this will be a time of enormous emotional stress that will require substantial mental coping. The situation will be worse if you haven't considered the necessary financial and insurance preparations. Bearing in mind that the overarching goal in preparing for your aging parents' long-term care is to maintain a robust quality of care, here are three things to consider when preparing for this process:
Prepare early. I can't tell you how many times I have received a call that goes something like this: "We just found out that our mother has been diagnosed with the early signs of dementia. What can we do to make sure she doesn't run out of money, and at the same time give her the best care possible?"
The bottom line is that the earlier you prepare, the better this process will go for you...Consider meeting with a financial planner and an elder law attorney. These professionals have the necessary experience to use tools like gifting and asset shifting to help preserve one's life savings.
Determine if you need long-term care insurance. What it really boils down to is the cost of staying in a quality nursing home. According to a 2010 Genworth Financial Cost of Care survey, the median annual rate for a semi-private room costs approximately $100,000 per year in New Jersey.

Avoid procrastination. The trigger age for the cost of long-term care insurance is at or near 60 years old. Pre-existing conditions—conditions you have prior to applying for the insurance coverage—may be excluded from your coverage, particularly if you move to obtain this early on enough for your parents.
Long-term care insurance isn't for everyone. If your parents are currently receiving Social Security or expect to have minimal or no retirement or investment savings, they will most likely qualify for state and federal aid, and should not purchase long-term care insurance.
Make sure you fully understand what a long-term care policy covers and, more importantly, what it doesn't cover. The best thing you can do for your parents is to give them the quality of life they deserve in their sunset years. The only way to truly do this effectively is to start planning and preparing as early on as possible.
Doug Lockwood, CFP, is a Partner at Harbor Lights Financial Group, a full service wealth-management team He was recently named one of America's Top 100 Financial Advisors by Registered Rep Magazine (August 2010) based on assets under management.

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